( continued from yesterday ) The ability to be intimate requires positive self-esteem and a solid “sense of self.”
Growing up in a homophobic society, gay men internalize an onslaught of negative messages from many different sources that denigrate our identities.
As such, most of us grew up feeling different, inadequate, defective, and anchored with shame.
We may still even feel that way now. Internalized homophobia settled in and the idea of having a genuinely intimate relationship with another man became very triggering of that shame that was instilled.
Nonetheless, many of us eventually ventured out to explore our sexualities with