( continued from yesterday )Boundary Violations In Gay Relationships - We’ve talked about self-oriented boundary violations like straying from your diet or cheating on a test. Violations in your relationship with your partner can be particularly damaging, however, as they can diminish your trust in each other and cause significant conflicts and emotional distance that can tear down the foundation of commitment you’ve built.
Again, it’s human to stray from our boundaries at times, but when it becomes pervasive and isn’t talked about with your partner to try and remedy it, serious consequences can arise.Here are some examples of ...
Have you ever skipped going to the health club one day because you just absolutely had no motivation to get all sweaty and tired? Or what about gorging on a half-gallon of ice cream to cope with your stress? Ever leave the mall wondering what the heck you were thinking maxing out your credit card? Do you work more hours at your job than need be? These are situations where a boundary violation of the self has occurred and we’ve all been there.
Boundaries are the limits we set around ourselves to keep safe, centered, and accountable. They are ...
[ continued from yesterday ] Connecting with others is good for us and is one way we nurture ourselves." In my last column, I suggested you take stock of where you are in your social life. Good questions to explore include:
How available are you?
Do you really want a boyfriend?
Or are you perfectly happy as an independent guy and just moaning about wanting a date because everyone else seems to be doing so?
Are you emotionally accessible?
Are you ready for the sort of openness intimacy requires of us?