It is human nature to stumble outside our boundaries from time to time, but when it becomes a way of life, underlying issues may be at play that will require some attention and intervention to avoid ongoing conflicts in one’s life. full story here ...

Have you ever skipped going to the health club one day because you just absolutely had no motivation to get all sweaty and tired? Or what about gorging on a half-gallon of ice cream to cope with your stress? Ever leave the mall wondering what the heck you were thinking maxing out your credit card? Do you work more hours at your job than need be? These are situations where a boundary violation of the self has occurred and we’ve all been there. Boundaries are the limits we set around ourselves to keep safe, centered, and accountable. They are ...

Who said gay love doesn't last a lifetime? It appears that with an increasing number of lifelong same-sex commitments the tragic days depicted in The Well of Loneliness and A Boy's Own Story are fading into the melodramatic shadows of the past. full story here ...

Many of us spend a lot of time and energy hoping to find Mr. Right. We also imagine that when we find him, the sex will always and automatically be fabulous. (This article is part of a continuing series for GAYTWOGETHER authored by John R. Ballew, M.S., a licensed private practice professional in Atlanta - specializing in issues related to coming out, sexuality, relationships and spirituality.)  When we first meet someone new, we often feel so much passion that the specifics of what we are doing don’t matter all that much. Sooner or later the novelty starts to wear ...

Washed up pop star and avowed homosexual Pete Burns ain’t down with gay marriage: “I think two men naturally are predators. Gay relationships are a commercial break, not a whole movie. …It’s as though there’s some kind of emotional inadequacy or narcissism, where they feel emotionally inadequate and need more validation, from either a father figure or a mirror image of themselves. I’m not condemning it, I think it needs researching and help.” Um, look in the mirror, babe. [Joe.My.God] ...

Here they are, the first set of 1000 reasons why you should leave him. The trick is to find out before it’s too late and not to close your eyes because you are blinded by how much you love him. Don’t let him use you, take advantage of you, or isolate you. Don't let him manipulate you into staying. Don't let him wear you down so that your self-worth becomes so low you feel like you have no choices. And don’t remain silent because you’re afraid. Finding out all the nasty details during the last months before it ...

More than 200 Methodists attended a lesbian couple's commitment ceremony Friday in defiance of a vote to uphold a church law that says gay relationships are "incompatible with Christian teaching." The ceremony was at a park across from the Fort Worth Convention Center, where some 3,000 people are meeting for the United Methodist Church's general conference. It is held every four years to set church policy. Methodists this week rejected replacing a sentence in its Book of Discipline — which says the church "does not condone the practice of homosexuality" — with other phrases, including one saying Christians differ ...

Want to change your relationship? Change your point of view. (This article is part of a continuing series for GAYTWOGETHER authored by John R. Ballew, M.S., a licensed private practice professional in Atlanta - specializing in issues related to coming out, sexuality, relationships and spirituality.) full story here ...

Want to change your relationship? Change your point of view. I enjoy being a therapist for many reasons, but mostly because people are just so darn interesting. (This article is part of a continuing series for GAYTWOGETHER authored by John R. Ballew, M.S., a licensed private practice professional in Atlanta - specializing in issues related to coming out, sexuality, relationships and spirituality.) We’re all the same in some ways, and yet so different in others. Someone told me once, “Always remember that you’re unique – just like everyone else.” And all that’s even more true in exploring relationships. Often a ...

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You’ve probably done it; I know I have. You’re driving home late at night feeling disappointed – or worse. Maybe you’re pounding the steering wheel and shouting at yourself. You just had sex with someone and you’re sorry you did it. (This part of a continuing series of columns for GAYTWOGETHER authored by John R. Ballew, M.S., a licensed private practice professional in Atlanta - specializing in issues related to coming out, sexuality, relationships and spirituality.) You know the bumper sticker that says that the worst day at the beach is better than the best day at the office?  ...

"True love begins when nothing is looked for in return." ...